Sometimes being a rational human being just plain sucks. I mean seriously — An emotional crying jag or a temper tantrum is the stuff of unicorns and rainbow candies. I would LOVE to just sit on a couch eating ice cream all day crying my fucking eyes out and watching sappy movies…OR punching someone in the throat…but you can’t just let emotions run rampant over logic.
That’s the stuff that gets you labeled batshit crazy. Part of being a strong, independent female is recognizing that sometimes you gotta be an actual adult (as defined in Webster’s dictionary) and bin the emotional bullshit (not to say your emotions are bullshit….calm the fuck down. You ARE valid). When it comes to dating/love/relationships/whateva, both parties play a very vital role in defining how that relationship will move forward (or not). It is incumbent upon all of you 30 and overs out there to seriously reflect on what is not only right for you, but, if you care about the other person, what is ultimately right for them…even if the logical answer isn’t what you want (I say 30 and overs because…well…selfishness). When you truly love/care for someone, I believe the best way to show it is to let them flourish into the person they are meant to be…(I’m talking adults here…you parents out there keep on silently brainwashing your children with proper morals cuz I can’t handle any more mass or serial killers out there).
Seriously though – as I get older and go through more life experiences than I probably even want, I learn some valuable lessons. What tends to trip people up most is when they put too much attachment and emotion into something so that when it’s ripped away, their life’s value is attached to its seam.
In relationships you can’t help but become emotionally attached in some way. Love feels good. However; you can have the foresight and wherewithal to recognize if something is logically going to serve you and/or your partner well. Be adult enough to know the difference between what’s good for you, what’s good for them, and what’s best for you both. Even if it sucks. Pitting logic and emotion against each other in the name of love makes you one crazy ass bitch…especially if emotion is winning. Balancing the two gets you either a healthy relationship or an emotionally healthy sense of self; it’s a win-win when you have a good balance…even if recognizing that the logical decision is to let go… I bet you’ve survived worse. I have….am…